I was out dancing with some girlfriends and it occurred to me, while I was out ,that some men need some ground rules to go by ;some guidelines. Although it was funny at the time, and in retrospect some of these social mishaps could have ended badly. However it is comforting to know that many men know these guidelines without us ladies having to be mean or bitchy. So to prevent any travesties on the dance floor or at the club here are some guidelines and personal stories that have helped me write these guidelines.
1) Buying drinks for a girl, is never a faux pas.
While out this past week, I was out with some girlfriends and struggling at the bar to get the bartender’s attention. I finally used my big-city-girl skills and made it to the bar and ordered. The man next me, who had just ordered, saw my debit card and asked, “so, do you charge every drink?” I didn’t understand what was happening. He paid and walked away. When I went to pay for my drinks, the bartender pointed to the man who had been standing next to me. When I brought my friend and I our drinks, she said, “well, girls shouldn’t have to buy drinks anyway.” I shrugged my shoulders and enjoyed.
2) Grabbing a girl’s hand or wrapping your arms around her stomach–NEVER acceptable.
So my girlfriends and I are dancing. Suddenly this guy comes up to my friend and grabs her hand and does this bizarre move. As he takes her hand he weaves his fingers with hers and tries do a wave-like motion with both of their arms. It was the strangest thing I’d ever seen on a dance floor. Until, he went behind my other friend and started rubbing her belly while she was dancing. Her response to this strange behavior- turning around and saying, “you need to stop.” We all were laughing hysterically. Although it still was the strangest thing I’ve ever seen on a dance floor.
What the hell was he thinking?
3) Circling girls like pray–a no go!
Some more dancing ensues. My best friend must have been giving off the creeper vibe because a guy came by and tried to dance away with her. Had I not been paying attention who knows where this guy would have taken her. I quickly grabbed her hand and she pulled herself towards me. Well, this guy clearly didn’t get the picture and continued to circle us while we were on the dance floor. It was ridiculous. It didn’t matter where on the floor we were either. It was as if we were being hunted. Creepy.
4) Get the picture.
For you men out there at the dance clubs please heed this last bit of advice. If the lady you’re after is not responding to your awkward hand motions and belly rubbing. If she’s not feeling that whole cat and mouse game you’re going after, please get the picture. There is nothing wrong with moving on to the next chick who may respond to the circling, or hand stuff, or belly rubbing.
5) Groping–absolutely not!
I believe this rule is self explanatory. But just in case, understand that grabbing a girls, ass and boobs is not okay unless she has okayed it; and let’s try and keep it behind closed doors.
I think mostly, we’re all out there to have a good time and socialize. Those weird moves just don’t work unless you’re being goofy. It sounds cliche, but be yourself. We probably like that version of you better anyway.
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